Now we must remember that, every body is different. However, with a little creativity the following can and does work wonders – so say the sexperts over at www.intimateconnexions.co.uk the sexy lingerie and sex toy store.

Spontaneity is good – but let’s on this occasion set the scene in advance, plan ahead. Prepare your love making area with candles, fresh flowers, incense, soft music... whatever you feel she would like. Your thoughtfulness will surprise and delight her.

Ensure that she is as relaxed and comfortable as possible, let her know this is her time and you’re out to please and pamper her.

Encourage her to lie back on the bed and gently place a few pillows behind her head, and importantly, make sure she isn't cold.

Now with the scene set and you ready for action what you don’t want to do is dive straight for her pussy; spend some time kissing her lips, shoulders, breasts and belly. Stroke her lightly with your fingertips. Tell her how beautiful she is. Move down between her legs and gently kiss, blow, stroke and nibble her belly, inner thighs and hips, the more you enjoy yourself the more she will enjoy what you’re doing to her.

Take your time and at some point very soon – you’ll notice her breathing heavier you’ll also notice her making gentle gyrating motions, at this point look at her - give her a confident pleasant smile and now gently spread her legs and kiss her pubic mound.

Nuzzle around for a few minutes, experiment by gently stroking her pussy with your face, lips tongue and nose, spending time with the different parts of her pussy. Be attentive in particular to her breathing; this is key as the faster she breathes the more she is enjoying what you’re doing to her. If you’re doing something that she likes – repeat it.

When she sounds highly aroused - she may be wiggling around a bit, spread her labia and GENTLY kiss, lick, suck and even nibble her clitoris - experiment. Don't hold the clitoral hood back unless she instructs you too as it is a highly sensitive area.

Lick and nuzzle the entire area: vaginal opening, perineum, inner labia and clitoris. If she says or otherwise indicates that she particularly likes what you're doing, spend a little time there.

Wrap your arms around her hips, cupping her buttocks, and get to work on her clitoris. Apply firm pressure with the tip of your tongue in a circular motion. Be patient: you might be here awhile. If she's not responding to the clitoral pressure you're exerting, try some variations. Try tracing the letters of the alphabet across her genitals and clitoris. Try inserting your tongue into her vagina (some women dislike this, so pay attention to her response or just ask her if she likes it). Vary speed, pressure and intensity. Try inserting your fingers or use a sex toy we recommend the Tongue Vibrator as it is safe, easy to use and will have her at orgasm stage in no time.

When you hear rapid heavy breathing and feel her body start to tense up, she's really enjoying the stimulation you're giving her. Whatever you do, don't stop doing what you're doing. She's probably about to have her orgasm.

Continue to stimulate and hold her while she climaxes. Be warned: women can have much longer orgasms than men and can experience waves of orgasms that last several minutes. Let her enjoy herself and continue to stimulate her until she lets you know you can stop.

That’s it for now – remember, if your love what you’re doing and enjoying it – chances are that she is too – have fun and visit us again soon – also check out our latest on-line sex shop for the guys at www.sex-toys-for-men.co.uk